yes. having gone to hampshire, i have heard quite a bit against monogamy, but i still hold true to it. oh, we're naturally supposed to move on every seven years, it's unnatural, there's no reason to be unable to love more than one person at a time. but to be honest, i have only ever heard of one polyamorous couple that has survived for an extended period of time. i also have heard of many monogamous couples who have lived long, happy lives together. whether it is the culture i was raised in or not, i think that monogamy is natural; it is a commitment to one person, saying that they are important enough in your life to stay with them. it says to them that you don't need anyone else to be happy, which to me is very important. of course, the rebuttal would be that equating sex with happiness and fidelity with love is ridiculous, that the two are separate things. but i disagree. to me, at least, sex is more than the physical, and it is highly emotional. so for me, telling me that i'm not enough sexually is like saying that i'm not enough emotionally, either, and that you cannot "settle" for me, or be satisfied with me. so yes, i believe in monogamy. it is how we express that we are happy with each other in a sexual, romantic relationship.
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